(ed:..i was the prime-caregiver for my (now adult) son from when he was first born – and viewed it as a failure if he cried/was upset..i found the more attention/care you paid – the happier the baby/child was..
..so from that practical experience/example i totally agree with the premise argued by this writer..)
Affection and attention are crucial for infants — they help the brain develop chemicals that protect against stress.
When a baby signals that something is amiss it matters if the need is met fairly promptly – at least most of the time.
This doesn’t mean being at the infant’s beck and call at every moment of the day or night but it does mean that distress should lead to soothing in a reasonably predictable way for the baby.
Why is it significant that a baby’s needs be met when he lets you know he’s unhappy?
After all if feeding – changing and soothing are happening—regardless of whether this is happening at just the moment the baby is demanding it—shouldn’t that be nurturing enough?