Relationships are tough and with 42 per cent of marriages ending in divorce – experts are looking into reasons as to why so many of us are failing at them.
According to one social psychology professor we’re simply too idealistic.
Eli Finkel – who teaches at Northwestern University in Illinois – believes that we expect too much from romantic relationships and we should drastically lower our expectations if we ever want to feel truly fulfilled.
Speaking to The Atlantic about his new book The All-Of-Nothing Marriage: How the Best Marriages Work – Finkel explained why our understanding of marriage has changed in recent years – prompting us to demand more from our partners than we once would have done.
He believes that the biggest changes in society’s marital expectations in the past 100 years come down to added pressures which are exacerbated by cultural changes.
In addition to the presumption that we will love and adore our spouse – Finkel explains that there is a modern day assumption that our partner will also enable us to grow ourselves.