It’s not a message likely to be found on many Valentine’s cards but research has found that couples who argue together – stay together.
Couples who argue effectively are 10 times more likely to have a happy relationship than those who sweep difficult issues under the carpet – according to a survey of almost 1,000 adults.
Many couples mistakenly believe that avoiding discussing sensitive issues means avoiding an argument – which in turn will be good for their relationship said Joseph Grenny co-author of the New York Times bestseller Crucial Conversations.
‘But the biggest mistake that couples make is avoidance’ he said.
‘We feel something but say nothing.
At least until we can’t stand it anymore.
So we wait until we are certain to discuss it poorly before we bring it up’.