Top tips on how to become a better person according to Confucius and co.
Once we find ourselves the assumption continues – we must embrace and be true to that self.
But the first great philosopher in the Chinese tradition Confucius – who was born in the sixth century BCE – would have thought differently.
The problem with authenticity he’d say is that it’s not freeing the way we believe it to be.
Who is that authentic self you think you have discovered really?
It’s a snapshot of you at this one moment in time.
If you stay true to that self and allow it to become your guide, it constrains you.
It doesn’t allow for the sort of growth you experience when you recognise that you are ever-changing.
We flourish when we recognise our complexity and learn how to work with it through self-cultivation.
You grow for example when you understand that you are not a hothead just because you tend to think of yourself as short-tempered or shy because you see yourself as an introvert.
Most labels are patterns of behaviour we’ve fallen into and can be broken.
We aren’t just who we think we are – we can work on becoming better people all the time.