Have you ever wondered if you’re a narcissist?
Then it’s more than likely you’re not – according to one of Australia’s leading experts on narcissism.
• Needs to be admired
They also have this intense need to be adored and admired that has to happen all the time. When speaking to a narcissist it’s very difficult to have a reciprocal conversation with them. They won’t listen very attentively to you and will somehow always manage to bring the conversation back around to them.
• Will manipulate
Narcissists tend to use or exploit people and will often manipulate a situation in such a way that they get other people to do a lot of their boring or dirty work for them. Somehow or other they manipulate a situation so they come out getting the glory for it.
• Lacks empathy for others
Another very important characteristic is a serious lack of empathy in that they really can’t put themselves in the shoes of another person to really feel what it’s like. They’ll often be quite cold – particularly when others are distressed or going through an emotional upheaval.
• Will never apologise
Narcissists will almost never apologise or admit that they have been wrong. They never really take ownership or responsibility for themselves and their own lives – particularly with regard to other people and often don’t feel the need follow through on their often grandiose promises.
• Hate to be criticised
Another important characteristic is that they’ve got virtually no tolerance for even the slightest criticism or even constructive advice. Anything that’s got even a sniff of criticism they’re highly reactive to.
• Is very changeable
One minute a narcissist may consider you to be the most wonderful person in the world and can’t do a thing wrong and the next they’ve flipped into completely devaluing you. These rapid and extreme switches of behaviour can be really difficult to manage as someone who is trying to deal with a narcissist.