Pornography addiction is still controversial – but it is undeniable for those living within its destructive reach.’
You might have a young man of 23 for instance who walks into your counselling room and says he is having a problem ejaculating.
It’s either taking a very long time or it’s not happening.
‘That would be a problem that was rarely seen 10 or 15 years ago.
It has suddenly become much more common.
‘You talk to these young men and they are probably in their first or second long-term sexual relationship and they have met their own needs pretty consistently since adolescence with internet porn and masturbation’.
She believes it is not the porn itself that is the problem but the extent to which it is used and the problems that develop as a result.
‘And also the underlying problems that lead a person to overusing it’.
Porn use is out of control when it starts causing problems in a person’s life she says.
Signs can range from a partner complaining that the porn user is always on their device and spends less time with them – through to being found with inappropriate material on their work computer.
Clients frequently tell Hodson about longing for unstructured time so they can get on to their device and look at porn and masturbate.
‘The person’s mind is becoming aroused entirely around sex – hyperarousal.
For these people their interest in sex has soared way above the norm.
They are much more interested in sex and sexual things than others’.