What turns you off?
For some it might be arrogance or swearing – for others it could be tattoos and unconventional piercings.
For women it’s time apparently – as a new study has found that women lose interest in having sex with their partner after just 12 months of being together.
Published in the British Medical Journal Open the survey collected data from 4,839 men and 6,669 women aged 16-74 and revealed that while both genders tire of sex with age – women claim to get bored of sex in relationships far quicker than men.
If these women had something to complain about they should have done it in the dignified ways that previous generations did.We have seen Key demonstrate strengths such as his ability to connect with real New Zealanders.
He knows real New Zealanders can’t stand the sound of women complaining – especially when a whole bunch of them do it at once.
His attitude might not be fashionable but he is about old-fashioned values – like putting women in their place – teaching them to be seen and not heard and never backing down or apologising – especially when you’re in the wrong.
If these women had something to complain about they should have done it in the dignified ways that previous generations did: by confiding it to their diaries or sharing it with one special friend over a nice cuppa.
They certainly shouldn’t attempt to broadcast their woes to the nation so the Speaker is put in a position where he looks like a right toerag when he kicks them out of Parliament.
And it must be hard for Key to look at film of New Zealanders on Christmas Island without getting upset.
There they are – lolling around in shirts-off weather – enjoying brilliant sunshine and sand and all the free time in the world.
Don’t people know how much it costs to get that in Hawaii?
As the UN marks its 70th birthday this autumn half of humankind may still ask: what has been achieved for us?
One answer can be found in a small village in Gujarat. Here the good news is that a woman was recently elected head of the village council for the first time. The bad news is that it took Manjuben Mohanbhai Makwana a month to summon up the courage to enter her own office.
‘I was one of 12 women elected to the council but none of us had ever been inside’ she said. ‘Our husbands ruled in our names’.
An illiterate low-caste woman who dropped out of school aged five Makwana broke centuries of tradition that day by lifting the veil from her face – looking the men of Amargarh village in the eye and asking one of them to vacate her seat.
He laughed she recalled. ‘Women sit on the floor here – not in chairs’ he said. ‘And men rule’.
Soothing untruths show human socialisation at its most crafty and sophisticated – no wonder women are so good at them.
A new poll suggests that women are twice as likely to lie as men – if respondents were telling the truth that is. It may be irritating to be told yet again that women are more morally slippery than men (just as in Genesis) – but one could also argue that women lie more because we are ‘nicer’.
The survey – funded by an insurance company – found that an overwhelming majority of lies were told in order to make someone feel better – to avoid trouble – or to make life simpler (and very rarely for false insurance claims). This was true of both men’s and women’s lies – the only clear difference being that women did it more often – some, apparently up to 30 times a day.
So what is it that makes women so delightful if untrustworthy? It seems that whichever side of the born/made debate you favour you will find plenty of evidence to support the idea that women are inclined to be kind.
In the ‘nature’ camp we have the notion that women are biologically programmed to care for helpless babies. This means that we not only have soft cuddly fat-retaining bodies – but that our brains are constructed in such a way as to make us communicative and understanding.
In the ‘nurture’ camp we might hear that women have been coerced into being caring and accommodating as part of a long-term brainwashing campaign.
This began in Palaeolithic times – when the birth of agriculture meant that it was materially advantageous for females to stay at home weeding and breastfeeding while males went out to hunt. Being forced to loiter about in the village inevitably made women friendly – if a little gossipy – but it also meant that the men got all the excitement and glory. No wonder we succumbed to telling a few porkies to liven things up.
So – are our soothing lies genetically underpinned or culturally dictated?